You can tell yourself all day that you’re going to do better next time. That won’t change what’s underneath.

Why does my child trigger me so much?

I’m here to tell you that hoping, praying and breathing deeply didn’t get to what was underneath my reaction. Your child cries and you’re already yelling before you’ve had a chance to think. You’re trying to consciously fight an automatic response. And there may be a belief you picked up in childhood that you’re still living out without even knowing it.

Maybe you learned that crying made you too much. Now your child’s tears bring up the same discomfort you had to swallow. When I say your child is asking you to learn something about yourself, this is what I mean. What did you learn about feelings like this when you were a child?

If you’ve already yelled, you can go back and own it. “I yelled. I’m sorry I spoke to you that way. I’m going to try again.”

Choose what you pass down.

Here’s what you need to know. When you keep reacting from that old belief, you can pass it down without realizing it. If crying meant you were too much, what might your child learn when their tears are met with yelling? That’s what we work on ending and reprogramming inside The Mother Frequency™.

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What is your child asking of you?

I want to challenge you to go a step deeper. When your child yells, resists, won’t sleep or makes a mess, they’re having their own experience. When all you can feel is how hard motherhood is in that moment, it’s easy to miss what they’re asking of you.

This is why I teach you to read your child’s energy. You get to see the individual in front of you, get curious about what they’re showing you and look at what needs to shift in you so you can support them.